Sunday, July 10, 2011

Passed Away

My mother went to her eternal rest at around 2300 hours on July 9, 2011. She was a good parent and friend to myself and many others.

Born in 1925, she lived through the bombings of WWII in Germany, lost her home and spent time in detainment camps run by the Russians.

You can never quite be prepared for the death of a loved one, and I am glad I spent some time with her Saturday afternoon before she passed.

I will miss her, and the tears I've shed are for my own loss, as she is moved on to the last part of the journey that is life. I am glad she will not have to see the completion of the destruction of this world and deal with losing her pension, social security, and medical care.

At this point in time, I believe the dead may have a leg up on we which are alive, but we all must carry our burdens, with strength and dignity, and complete our own journey as appointed by our maker.

Mom: You will be greatly missed. Your memory will always live within my heart till my own time comes. Thank you for everything you did for me, the uncountable little things that I had forgot, and never really appreciated. Please know that I loved you!

21 comments:

INCOMING!!!!!!! said...

Requiescat In Pace.

Avops said...

Thank you Incoming.

Lavender Luck said...

I'm sorry.

kenny's sideshow said...

Our thoughts are with you.

dublnmick said...

I understand just how you feel having lost my own mother years ago in a nursing home, diabetic blindness, leg amputated. She couldn't even recognize my voice. I am so happy she is out of this place even though I miss her.

They were always trying to make money on her in the nursing home. They said her blood was a little low and needed a transfusion. I said lots of disease in the blood supply but if she needs one here is my own right arm, take out and place it straight into her. They said no can't do that, I said well can't have a transfusion then.

Then they said she has a lump in her breast needs a mastectomy. I said lots of old women get lumps, it is not all cancer just hardened tissue. If you feel it is more take a biopsy and send it off. They just dropped the idea. She never had cancer of the breast, it never changed and she had no pain there.

Criminal SOBs.

You are good man avops.

dublinmick said...

When they explain to her what she just missed she will be worried about you.

I just finished watching that movie nina is always talking about, "The Road" We will soon be on it.

Bladerunner said...

Thoughts and prayers.

Gudrun said...

Hi there Avops,
*cyber hugs*

HOPI PRAYER of The Soul's Graduation:

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there,
I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight
On the ripened grain.
I am the gentle Autumn's rain.
When you awaken in the morning hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there.
I did not die.
My Spirit is still alive...

Much love to you ♥
Gudrun

Avops said...

Thank you all for your kind words, it is times like these that we we can see what Love really is!

Timster said...

Very well put. Exactly the words I would have used for my mother's passing. She is well rid of this world as we know it.

Richard said...

I too offer condolences and wish you strength in your time of grief.

D.R. said...

Condolences. I'm sorry this happened to you.

veritas6464 said...

Hey Avops,...

"She was a golden font
that freely poured
What goldenly endures,
And though that font be gone,
its bounty stored
and treasured,
Still is yours."

Adapted from, 'Journey of Hearts A Healing Place in CyberSpace', by Arthur Guiterman.

veritas

chuckyman said...

My condolences and prayers to you and all your family at this time Avops.

I think Gudrun words are without compare.

May peace by with you.

Penny said...

Hey Avops;

I am sorry for your loss, truly.

You are right, you can never be prepared for the loss of a loved one.
But, still it comes.
It hurts like hell
And you muddle through....

My thoughts are with you

Avops said...

Thanks everyone for all your kind words, I appreciate your thoughts!

glengear said...

MY THOUGHTS & PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU MY FRIEND, MY MOTHER IS GOING THROUGH A DIFFICULT TIME. YOUR MOTHER IS NOT SUFFERING ANY LONGER & IS A BEAUTIFUL PLACE MY FRIEND. glen

Noor al Haqiqa said...

I offer you heartfelt condolences on your recent loss. I lost my mother just two months ago and so the wound is still raw.

My Mom was 94 and had a long very adventurous life and was proud of her heritage. I never ever met anyone who did less than praise her, honestly how many people can say that about anyone?

The past 4-5 years her dependency upon me grew and grew and, although I am ashamed to say I sometimes cussed as I drove over to her house to fix or find something inconsequential, she never saw it. By the end, due to Parkinsons and other ailments she became bedbound and then decided it was time to let go.

We cared for her at home, because where I live there is a wonderful support system for such things. I learned a lot about the mechanics of palliative care but am glad we had staff to take care of the really personal matters. When she lapsed into a coma we still talked to her, read to her, let her know her children from around the country were here in unison and we prayed for her which would soothe her soul. We knew she heard us. My daughter put off defending her thesis for another term to be there to play big band and sing to her Gramma.

The last service I did for her, was when I wet her lips, I dipped the little sponge in Bailey's cream liqueur, wiped her lips, dabbed her tongue. I swear she smiled a wee bit. Then that night she went in her sleep in total peace. We were told that they had never seen a bed bound person's body in such well cared condition... a black but lovely compliment.

It is two months ago, I still tear up when we go through her things, disposing and following her will. I miss her voice and calling her, and her at times incessant calls. Worst, last week was my 63rd birthday and it was really rough to have it without the person I had shared it with from the very start.

I am told that the missing eases up. I also find I don't know what to do with all this spare time! Volunteer work with seniors seems like a good fix.

I did not cry when she died. I did not cry at the lovely service we organized for friends and family. I could truly say I was happy she was out of the extreme pain that plagued her for the last few years. As the last of her surviving family of 11 kids, almost the last of her circle of friends, I take solace that she is wherever she is and enjoying catching up for she was always a very social being.

I am sorry, here it is your loss and I am going on about mine. However, I wanted just to share with you and commiserate and let you know you are not alone.

Blessings to you.

Avops said...

Thank you Noor, It had been a long journey for my mother as well, about 4 years.

She had lived with me, so I can relate to the amount of time involved in caring for someone through their illness.

I am finding myself in this nether world of not knowing what to do with my time also, I did not realize what a big part of my life she had become.

Thanks for relating your story, I don't feel quite as alone now!

mlbs said...

I lost someone very close to me a few years ago. To this day I have not stopped missing that person any less, but I know that my life would not even be close to how it is now if that person had not died.

Your darkest days will lead directly to your lightest.

INCOMING!!!!!!! said...

No sweat Avops. Just stay true and watch. I know you grieve. Do not withdraw from the fight, your insight is valued.

Then once you have considered, rejoin the fray.

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