Friday, July 29, 2011

When the Ego Dies: Experience of Spiritual Growing Pain

So, you have chosen the spiritual path. You feel empowered, free, awesomely happy and delighted to be alive and you evolve, you grow, you become more, and BOOM!
Suddenly one day you fall, you fall deep down in darkness and despair, and you wonder “what’s just happened??”
Thinking that isn’t the way of God suppose to be a joyful one? Truth is, that it is, but it’s like the saying about the diamond; that “a diamond is a chunk of coal that is made good under pressure”.
You are going though a period of spiritual purification, and while in the midst of it, it feels like your world is falling apart and nothing makes any sense anymore. I mean nothing makes any sense anymore. You even question if there is any God after all, and you curse in intensive anger towards this God who was suppose to bring you peace; Well, where it is then?? You feel very, very sad, have feelings of hopelessness and feel deeply disconnected from all the wonderfulness you experienced only a moment ago.
This is what’s going on:
While you are going through a transformation, your ego is dying. It is really dying, and who wouldn’t protest if we were in danger of dying? While spirit is emerging and taking you to a higher level of consciousness the ego is being left behind, and it become scared of loosing its home; you.
It will do whatever it can to make you stay on the level of awareness where you currently are, and it is doing everything in it’s power to make you feel you need it. That what you need and want is something the world can give you. But the world cannot give you what God gives you. God is the only source there is, and even if you feel panic dwelling up, please remember that you are not alone on the path that you have chosen.
Please remember: This is all a really good thing.
I can testify that it is good, even when it feels like the world is crushing and we see no way out, I promise you that it is all for your highest good. I have gone through these periods in the past where I have literally been on my knees, crying and feeling completely abandoned by God.
Now I recognize the periods and I get through them faster, but they are still very painful.
It’s a process that everyone who has seriously chosen the spiritual path in life goes through at some point in their evolutionary journey, and it can take years for some, the periods come and go, while for some it’s a few nights of very, very deep spiritual depression or crisis.
But it is all a good thing.
I know this, and I want to encourage you, if you are going through something similar, to understand that it is temporary, even if it feels like it will never end. Even when all you feel like is to go to bed and just sleep through it all, or even feel like you never want to wake up again. There will come a brighter day, I promise.
And I also promise that when the day comes, it will be brighter than the days you have ever had before. I promise you this. It is all worth it, so stay strong and faithful.
It’s very important for your own personal growth that you don’t resist the process. The void is not to be avoided, but embraced.
Sometimes the purification we go through is shown as physical symptoms:
  • Severe headaches, back pain for no reason at all, and sometimes intensive periods of only one or two days of a flu-like symptom where you are totally collapsed, body feeling sicker than ever before.
Know that if you have chosen the spiritual way of living, and if you have asked for your ego to be undone, and you have prayed to awaken and to be transformed, and you suddenly experience something like this, think for yourself if it can be spiritual growing pain. Go within and ask if it could be it. It probably is. If you want to awaken to your true self, you have to expect and accept the fact that the ego will not give up easily.
I know, it’s easier said than done, but the easiest way through it is to just surrender to the process.
Let spirit lead you through it, and know that even if it feels you are “forsaken”, you are not. You are being held by the hand. You truly are. You will know it when you have passed through it to the other side.
What to do when going through these periods? What to do when praying and meditation just doesn’t feel good or right anymore, what to do when reading inspirational stuff just doesn’t seem to interest you anymore as it did before..?
What to do when all you want to do is to go to sleep and hope for a better day tomorrow?
Well; what not to do is to try to fix it somehow. To not desperately try to take control of the situation and become almost hysterical about looking for ways out. All those things are actions made from a place of ego. Out of fear.
What I have learned is to surrender to all of it. It’s a practice, and we surrender and take it back, surrender and take it back. But the taking back-part becomes less and less as we grow.
Say out loud:
“I surrender all this to you God! I don’t know anything anymore, I simply don’t know anymore God, so I leave ALL MY LIFE IN YOUR HANDS, all of it”.
Just surrender. I mean it. You can’t possibly know which way to go or what to do, because the world you are now entering is new to you, you can’t know anything about it because you haven’t been there yet.
So surrender and let your self be LEAD to it, because you truly are not alone. I promise you that. Just let go.
Let yourself be lead through it without interference from the ego, welcome the transition and the journey to the next level of your consciousness will be less painful.
All really is well.


Anonymous said...

Maria is a pretty wise lady. We want to change the world and make things right and many are frustrated they cannot. One thing that keeps me going is I believe in divine justice. It is not immediate, sometimes unseen, but it will always prevail.

We all have to hold fast to things we know to be true. I personally believe in the 12 layers of heaven ascribed to Buddhism. Not because I read it somewhere but it rings true. (in my father's house there are many mansions) What is real is not in physical form. The physical will all someday pass away and take new forms. The spirit is forever.

The earth is a tough playground, but I am sure there are far worse places and far better places. It is a place to remind us to tell the truth, no matter what. That is what my father always said. At the time I thought, wow why is he saying this, isn't that what most people do? But alas that is not what most people do. It will also get you killed these days.

The earth reminds us of how a beautiful place can be utterly destroyed by evil entities and I believe there must be a separation soon. Class will soon be over the way things look. So how many times have we been admonished to be true to ourselves. That is really all we can do.

The Heyoka Red Elk strikes the truth chord with me when he says life on planet earth is not a game, it is a very serious proposition. You can lose your ability to be recognized by the creator if your carry it far enough with evil, placed somewhere you will no longer be recognized, a fate worse than death.

Avops said...

Great comment anon, thanks for stopping by!

Anonymous said...

Forgot to sign in, that was me.

Have I left this one before?

Avops said...

hey dm, nope you haven't left that one yet ;-)

BTW, I thought that was you (Red Elk comment was a big clue (grin))

Olive Farmer said...

I don't believe that, if there is a "god", that this god would wish us to surrender to anything, least of all "faith", nor belief in the unknowable, but would rather we lived beautifully and in "love", and reached the point of such understanding of our own free will.
In other words, this god would wish us to reach a godly state of understanding, to grow up as a species, to stand on our own two feet as a species worthy of the "ownership" of this world.
I don't know, but this message seems to carry the scent of disinformation to me. Sorry if I misjudge the author.
One of the things I look for in longer pieces is the deliberate mis-spelling, the "I'm just an ordinary person" mis-spelling that comes from turning off the spell-check, a deliberate disguising of the intelligence behind the message.
I could do a detailed breakdown, but the devil, or lucifer, is in the detail.
The new consciousness we dream of lies within humanity. The collective power derived from the realisation and understanding that we 7 billion of us can do exactly what we want. We simply need to comprehend what it is we really want.
Good company.
Satisfaction from what we do.
A warm place, or a cool place.
A future worth having.
WE need no god for this.
And if there is a god, surely that is what this god would want us to understand, as any parent would wish its child to grow into beauty and stand on its own two feet.
xxx xxx xxx

Avops said...

Hi Olive Farmer

First I would like to tell you that I find your posts very thought provoking. You seem so close to the truth, and yet you seem to miss the whole point.

If there is a God, then surely He would have us grow and stand in a purely spiritual way.

The end of all flesh is always death an the end of all material 'things' is loss, theft, or by destruction.

If there is a God, surely he would want us to have things that were not subject to death and destruction.

Therefore, I put to you that the peace and prosperity we seek cannot be had in our present physical state, but only by living as we can, in the spirit and truth of God till we pass from death into life!



Anonymous said...

Very good. Thanks. Seems I read this at the right time, for the right reasons. It also lets me know I am not alone in going through these exact feelings. There is a terrible battle going on inside me once again. I also think I have effected my friend Jan who is going through some rough times, as well as my children. These last few months have been rough, heck, I messed up Jan's Christmas by staying away as I was in a fit of dispair that I really could not control. The day before was great, we were all looking forward to Christmas. There have been a few other days like this and it is a struggle to get back into things. I know I am under constant assault and sometimes a darker side rises up from these feelings and I have no control over it. It isn't anger. It is like a spiritual pain that cuts into your heart. Only Jan is left who can bring it to bay. My late grandmother and mother were also able to do this. When I was in the service, my First Seargent would let me lock myself in the attic in the barracks until it passed. I don't have that luxury any more, have kids to raise. Your article has helped to explain what is happening and how to deal with it. Wishing you a blessed day my friend. Peace:D

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